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The Abstract Problem of Death

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Alessia Casali
November 17 2025

Death is the most certain thing in your future and simultaneously the most abstract. You know you're going to die. Everyone dies. The knowledge sits there, clear and undeniable. Yet you probably spend most days without thinking about it, living as if you have infinite time, making plans decades into the future as though mortality is something that happens to other people.

This strange dual consciousness creates what philosophers call "terror management." We know death is coming but we psychologically buffer ourselves from that knowledge because living in constant awareness of mortality would be paralyzing. We construct mental defenses that allow us to function while keeping the reality of death at comfortable distance.

These defenses serve important purposes for daily functioning, but they work against making rational decisions about mortality itself. Cryopreservation requires confronting death not as abstraction but as personal reality deserving concrete planning. Most people can't maintain that confrontation long enough to actually arrange preservation.

the cognitive distance

Think about how you conceptualize your own death. It's probably vague, distant, happening to some future version of you that doesn't feel quite like the present you. You might imagine dying peacefully in old age, surrounded by loving family, having lived full life. The scenario feels more like a story than a reality.

This narrative distance is protective but distorting. It allows death to stay in the category of "things I know about" without moving to "things I need to act on." Your death remains perpetually theoretical even though it's guaranteed practical reality.

The problem intensifies because death offers no experiential reference point. You've experienced injury, illness, pain, fear. You haven't experienced being dead. You can't imagine it meaningfully because there's no "you" in the state you're trying to imagine. This creates cognitive paradox. You're trying to plan for condition that, by definition, involves your nonexistence.

Cryopreservation asks you to take this abstract future event and make concrete present decisions about it. Choose an organization. Arrange insurance. Spend money. Have difficult conversations. All for something that might be decades away and that you can't truly imagine experiencing. The psychological gap between abstract knowledge and concrete action remains vast.

When financial planners talk to young people about retirement savings, they face similar challenge. Retirement is abstract, distant, hard to visualize. The present seems infinitely more real and pressing. But retirement planning has one advantage over preservation planning: people can talk to retired individuals, see what retirement looks like, imagine themselves in that future state.

With death, no such reference exists. No one returns from permanent death to describe the experience. The finality is absolute and therefore impossible to make psychologically real until it's imminent. By then, arranging preservation may be too late.

the language problem

Notice how we talk about death. People "pass away" or "are lost" or "depart." We use euphemisms that soften and distance. Even the word "death" itself carries less visceral impact than it should. It's abstract noun referring to state or event rather than the thing itself, which is total cessation of everything you are.

Try thinking about it more concretely. Not "I will die someday" but "someday my consciousness will end permanently and I will experience nothing ever again." Not "death is inevitable" but "every thought I have, every relationship I value, every experience that makes up my existence will cease and never resume."

That's harder to think about, isn't it? The mind kind of slides away from engaging with it directly. This sliding away is the abstraction at work. Your brain protects you from the full psychological weight of mortality by keeping it vague and distant.

Cryopreservation requires breaking through this protective vagueness. You have to make death concrete enough to plan for while not so overwhelming that you shut down entirely. It's delicate balance that many people struggle to maintain long enough to complete arrangements.

The abstraction also affects how we evaluate preservation's value proposition. If death feels distant and theoretical, preservation's benefit also feels distant and theoretical. You're purchasing insurance for abstract problem. The cost is concrete and present while the benefit remains hazy and future. This asymmetry pushes toward inaction.

the timeline distortion

Humans are remarkably bad at thinking about extended timelines. Psychological research shows we discount future rewards steeply. Money today feels more real than money next year. Pleasure now outweighs pleasure later. The further into future something is, the less psychologically real it becomes.

Death occupies the ultimate distant future for most people. Unless you're elderly or seriously ill, it probably feels decades away. Your brain treats decades-away events as barely real at all. The psychological presence is so weak that it generates almost no motivation for present action.

This creates another dimension of abstraction. Even if you make death itself feel more concrete, its timing remains abstract. You don't know when it's coming. Could be fifty years. Could be tomorrow. The uncertainty makes planning feel arbitrary. How do you prepare for event that might happen at any point across wide temporal span?

The answer involves another cognitive shift: recognizing that death timing's uncertainty makes early preparation more important, not less. You can't wait until death is imminent because you don't know when that will be. The only rational response to uncertain timing is maintaining readiness.

But readiness for death feels psychologically weird. Most people spend their lives doing the opposite: forgetting about death, pushing it to mental background, building lives that assume continuance. Preservation planning requires living with one foot in this death-awareness while maintaining the other foot in normal life. It's cognitively taxing.

making it real without drowning

Some people respond to preservation information by becoming somewhat obsessed with mortality. They've broken through the abstraction barrier but lack the psychological tools to integrate death awareness healthily. They think about death constantly, feel anxious about every risk, struggle to enjoy present moments because future ending looms too large.

This isn't the goal either. Healthy engagement with mortality acknowledges its reality while not allowing that reality to dominate consciousness. You need enough awareness to motivate action but not so much that it undermines quality of life.

One approach is compartmentalization. Dedicate specific time to thinking about mortality and making preservation plans. Outside that time, allow yourself to return to normal death-buffering. You don't need constant awareness. You just need sufficient awareness to complete practical arrangements.

Another helpful frame is thinking about preservation as routine planning rather than existential confrontation. You have life insurance, right? You have emergency fund? You wear seatbelts? All of these address distant or unlikely scenarios without requiring constant contemplation of those scenarios. Preservation can occupy similar mental category: sensible precaution that doesn't demand ongoing psychological engagement.

Some people find it helps to focus on the positive rather than negative. Instead of "I'm preventing permanent death," think "I'm preserving option to continue experiencing things I value." The framing shifts from avoiding bad outcome to enabling good one. Psychologically, moving toward something feels better than running from something.

The key is finding your own way to make death real enough for planning purposes without making it so overwhelming that you can't function. This balance looks different for different people. Therapist friends suggest that talking about mortality with others helps normalize it. Community makes the abstract more concrete.

why waiting feels safe

There's comfort in leaving death abstract. Confronting it concretely means acknowledging your vulnerability, your lack of control, the genuine possibility that you might cease to exist. This is heavy stuff. Most people's daily lives don't include space for regularly processing existential weight.

Procrastinating preservation planning allows death to stay safely abstract. You can maintain vague intention to "deal with it eventually" while never actually dealing with it. The intention provides psychological comfort, you're someone who takes mortality seriously, who plans responsibly, without requiring you to actually confront the thing itself.

This is why health scares so effectively break through procrastination. Suddenly death isn't abstract anymore. It's concrete, immediate, sitting in doctor's office discussing test results. The abstraction barrier collapses and preservation arrangements that felt perpetually postponable suddenly feel urgent.

The tragedy is that this urgency often arrives too late. By the time health crisis makes mortality feel real, insurance might be unobtainable. Time might be insufficient for proper arrangements. The moment when action finally feels necessary is often the moment when action becomes impossible or severely compromised.

The rational response is imposing artificial concreteness on abstract problem. Schedule yearly "mortality review" where you explicitly think about death and update relevant plans. Treat preservation arrangements as deadline-driven project with specific milestones. Create structures that force engagement with abstraction in controlled, manageable ways.

But know that even implementing these strategies feels uncomfortable. You're deliberately undermining your brain's protective mechanisms, forcing yourself to engage with reality your psychology evolved to buffer. It's not supposed to feel comfortable. The discomfort is sign you're doing something psychologically unusual but rationally necessary.

The abstract problem of death never fully resolves. Death remains fundamentally difficult to grasp, plan for, or integrate into daily consciousness. But by recognizing the abstraction for what it is, protective mechanism that serves daily functioning while undermining rational mortality planning, you can work with it rather than being entirely controlled by it. The goal isn't eliminating abstraction but managing it well enough that it doesn't prevent you from taking actions your rational self endorses.

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